Showing posts with label Painful sex. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Painful sex. Show all posts

Sunday, March 23, 2014

The Toronto Endometriosis Symposium 2014



First off I just want to say this symposium rocked. The speakers were amazing and they all brought something to the table. I don't get to go the meetings in Toronto often but I was lucky enough to attend the 2012 symposium to meet a bunch of these amazing ladies that have done an amazing job at putting these together with very very limited funds. How they do it I don't know but I think Canada definitely needs more funding for this Network from the government as well as Endosisters all across Canada. If we want to be heard and make a difference this is the place to start.

My phone died so I am going to use some of the pics that Ten tweeted during the symposium so you can see who was there.


To start off the symposium we had Jan Silverman who I adore since the day I first heard her speak in 2012. For 20 yrs she worked as a Clinical Program Specialist - Infertility Support and Education Program at the
Women's College Hospital in Toronto in which was closed down in 2012 due to supposed budget cuts. Read more about her passions here

Just to have someone in the room has been around with block with Women who suffer with Endo or infertility is amazing. She has such heart and passion for what she does and the city of Toronto is so blessed to have her in their midsts. Her words are so clear "YOU ARE NOT ALONE ON THIS JOURNEY"


Next up was my favourite Endometriosis Advocate from the CEC Heather Guidone. Just her presence at the symposium was powerful. She has been advocating for over 20 yrs (If I am not mistaken) and is a support all throughout social media. She comes with so much information and insight that is was such a pleasure on its own to finally meet her yesterday. She discussed how everyone is effected not just the Endo patient and how Endometriosis is a public health crisis and at this day in age this should not still be happening. 


Next up was Dr. Wong a gynaecologist in Toronto he spoke about how to be specific with your pain when explaining it to your doctor (sharp, numbing, and where) and the journey through the doctors offices. One thing that I found that I completely did not agree with at all is that he said "We use Lupron to diagnose Endo at times" Big fail in my eyes. This is where Canada is lacking and it was quite apparent because this is the normal run around you get. He also said that all Endo sometimes can't be removed because some microscopic parts will regrow and I disagree with that as well as a good surgeon can see all Endo and knows what to look for. Don't get me wrong I don't think he is a bad surgeon however it shows that Canada has a long way to go in treating and treatment for Endometriosis patients. He did mention "A pelvic exam should not be painful" This is what I found funny because every single exam I have ever had hurt and why did no one pick up on this? During this time there was discussion about Medical Marijuana that you tell that Dr. Wong was not comfortable talking about it but the room of patients sure wanted to. 


Next up was Pamela Frank a Health Solution Specialist, a licensed Naturopathic Doctor, women's health & infertility expert. She discuss diet and what we eat such as Meat, Dairy PCB's in Fish, and dioxins being linked to Endometriosis through those foods and also how little research has been done with the Endometriosis diet.  She talked about how Telomerase was higher in women with Endo, something I will need to read up more on, how gluten has been associate with pain in women with Endo. She recommended a site called http://www.kidsafeseafood.org/



Next up was the guy everyone was waiting to see and to hear from Dr. Sinervo from the CEC in Georgia. He talked about Bowel Endo and how often it is mistaken for IBS making it more difficult for patients to get the right treatment done because unless the bowel is invaded with Endo otherwise a colonoscopy will show nothing and the patient is then labelled with the IBS title. He asked how many people were told they had IBS and almost everyone in the room put up their hands. He talked about how doctors need to start listening to their patients and showed some video's of Endo from the bowel being removed. There are limited doctors who excise Endo and that is the gold standard but there are only a limited amount that can actually do it and more need to be trained. 


Next up was Dr. Orbuch and although I have heard her name I didn't know much about her but I was completely and utterly fascinated by what she talked about. She discussed co-morbid/Co-existing conditions that go hand in hand with Endo including IBS, Vulvodynia, Lupus, Fibromyalgia, TMJ, Chronic Fatigue, Celiac Disease, Interstitial Cystitis. She talked about how younger patients endo are some times clear so can be often missed by an unskilled surgeon. She said that cauterized Endo does not grow back it means that it was never fully removed properly and that 50-86% of Endo patients also have IC. She talked about how low dose valium taken orally or vaginally can help with Endo and IC and also addressing Pelvic Floor dysfunction in all patients with Endo that are still in pain. 

I wish that she could have touched more on the PFD but time was limited. I will post back a link once I find it that she gave me in regards to the co-existing disease as I know I read it somewhere. 


Next up was Tara McKee who is a Sex educator/counsellor, workshop facilitator & psychotherapist. Gestalt Therapy trained and has her own private practice. She talked about how sex doesn't have to mean full penetration and it could be oral, touching, massaging etc. Many women who have Endo suffer with pain sexually even when climaxing so she gave different ideas on how to bring the "sexy time" back into a relationship. I thought she was great, made the room laugh and she made good points. 


My over all experience of the symposium was great. I am so happy that I could attend and for those who missed it I will post soon the You-tube link once they have it up. 

For me what I learned the most well more of because I do believe this is key is that every Endometriosis patient needs a group of doctors working for her such as a GP who is educated and understanding, a good Endo surgeon to excise the disease, Physiotherapy, Psychotherapy, sex therapy etc. There needs to be a united front involving patients like us because it is so hard to know what to do and how to avoid ending up in one medical room after another when it is completely necessary.  

Monday, November 11, 2013

Don't Touch Me! #Endometriosis #exams #TVUS

At the age of 13 was the first time I had experienced a trans-vaginal ultrasound and boy did it even hurt back then. There were no cysts found and the left side hurt a lot when she did the exam and she said that it was possibly Endometriosis but did nothing again for it just gave me some meds to take.

From that day forward I have been subjected to so many Physical exams either by hand or by machine, vaginally and rectally. I even got lucky to have most of them done twice at one time because of interns and because they need to train and what better person to train on than me right? UGH

I approached my last exam recently which happened to be a leep. It wasn't so much that I was afraid of what they were going to do but I really started to get severe anxiety about someone touching me down there period. I started to panic and in the waiting room a lady looked at me and said "are you okay? You seem to really nervous." It was then that I realized that I am done. I want people to stop touching me period. I don't want another pelvic/vaginal/rectal exam I want to be left alone almost to the point that I am probably not going to go see a doctor again because I am that done.

I have had every exam in the book from the time I was 13 to 36 yrs old and all of you who not only suffer with just Endometriosis can totally understand this. If it wasn't the painful sex it was yeast infections, cysts, Endometriosis, PID, High grade lesions on the cervix, rectal pain, bladder pain etc. How many times can someone be subjected to this? I feel so completely violated that I can barely stand my husband to even touch me. I hate it. I want no one to go near me.

It's sad when you think about what this disease has done to us because its not only the physical pain but its also what it does to us mentally. This disease has stolen my life and I want my life back but how? Is that even possible at this point?  

Friday, August 30, 2013

Sex & Endometriosis




Sex is something that most people are still shy talking about but for me I have become pretty vocal since my diagnoses of Endometriosis in 2007.

I started to have sex at a young age (too young) I always though sex just hurt in general for everyone, I never would have linked the two together if it hadn't have been for my ongoing research the last 23 yrs.

Sex always hurts for me. Sex to me is the most torturous thing in the world and if I could say "NO" to sex the rest of my life I would. However I am married and you can't really just do that, can you? I am lucky to have a great husband through all of this but how long can someone remain in a relationship when the person has to drink wine to be someone okay to even tolerate the pain? I am only guessing that my husband feels like crap thinking the only time I want sex is when I am drinking and that is far from the truth.

I had a recto-vaginal cyst that went 12 yrs undiagnosed and I knew from my first diagnoses of IBS that they were mistaken and that there was something else seriously wrong. I found at that time it was even more painful.

Deep penetration is a nightmare. There is no position that works at all and we have tried many. The left side of the vaginal wall always seems inflamed and even insertion is painful. How is this fair? I hear about all of these women that have these great sex lives and me, just someone saying "sex" causes me tension and anxiety.

I was at the Endometriosis Symposium in 2011 in Toronto and I met Dr. Wurn from Clear Passage Therapy as he was a guest speaker there. I got to talk one on one with him about pain, sex and Endometriosis. Knowing that I could never afford the therapy there and also that it is in the USA he told me to buy a vibrator. YES you heard me right!! LOL.  He told me not to turn it on and to insert it into the vagina and push against it against the vaginal wall to break up the scar tissue. I found it very amusing an older man sitting on a couch legs in the air mimicking the treatment, I had to actually turn around to make sure no one was looking HA.

I still have yet to try that but will be soon and after going to an Endometriosis support group meeting I have learned of many different things that have been used helped women such as dilators, medicinal marijuana, vaporized weed, pill form marijuana (Marinol) and sex therapy.

So all of these things I plan look into further but I was wondering from all of you what you have tried to make it more tolerable? Did any of you end up finding it was Adenomyosis causing the painful sex?

Let me know I would love to hear from you :)